That’s kinda the way it works when you put men and women together sometimes. They’re both human, but weirdly different.
The difference between the sexes may boil down to this: dividing the tasks of processing experience. Male and female minds are innately drawn to different aspects of the world around them.
Women’s perceptual skills are oriented to quick — call it intuitive — people reading. Females are gifted at detecting the feelings and thoughts of others, inferring intentions, absorbing contextual clues and responding in emotionally appropriate ways. They empathize. Tuned to others, they more readily see alternate sides of an argument. Such empathy fosters communication and primes females for attachment.
Women, in other words, seem to be hard-wired for a top-down, big-picture take. Men might be programmed to look at things from the bottom up (no surprise there).
Men focus first on minute detail, and operate most easily with a certain detachment. They construct rules-based analyses of the natural world, inanimate objects and events. In the coinage of Cambridge University psychologist Simon Baron-Cohen, Ph.D., they systemize.
The superiority of males at spatial cognition and females’ talent for language probably subserve the more basic difference of systemizing versus empathizing. The two mental styles manifest in the toys kids prefer (humanlike dolls versus mechanical trucks); verbal impatience in males (ordering rather than negotiating); and navigation (women personalize space by finding landmarks; men see a geometric system, taking directional cues in the layout of routes).
How do men and women think differently?
Men think COMPARTMENTALLY and women think GLOBALLY. Men and women store information and file away data in their cognitive memory banks very differently. Men tend to separate details and store them in different “compartments”, much like a file-cabinet-drawer system, such as (in random order): Work, Hobbies, Wife, Sex, etc.
Cognitively speaking, men tend to open and close “drawers” needed for the immediate moment, staying exclusively in that one compartment, and nothing else even exists except for what is in that compartment. Women, on the other hand, tend to do the complete opposite and connect things up, seeing life more globally. Women see how details and data have underlying and interrelated connections.
Both ways of thinking, compartmental and global, are great ways to think, with their own inherent strengths and weaknesses. Put them both together in the same relationship or marriage, and things start getting very interesting, to say the least.
How do men and women speak differently?
Men speak in short phrases with little or no details, whereas women speak in paragraphs, giving lots of story-like details. Men want and need the “bottom line” first, while women want and need details, details, details. That is not to say that men are not interested in getting the details, because they often do want them, but only after getting the bottom line answer to their question.
How do men and women decide things differently?
Men and women also make decisions about things very differently, such as how each of the sexes go about asking for things they want or need. Remember, speak THEIR language, not your own. Women have been taught since childhood to use “hint language” when asking for something she wants or needs. A woman may say, “Honey, wouldn’t be nice to go see a movie tonight”?, when she really means “I want to go see a movie tonight”. Unfortunately, men often do not get the hint.
On average, it has been estimated that men speak 12,500 words in a given day and women speak about 25,500 words in a day. Thus comes the old joke about a man going to work and using up 12,495 words and coming home with only five words left!
When he arrives home from work he says, “What’s for dinner?” (that’s three) and “Good night” (that’s five!).